Saturday, March 21, 2009

Great Book!


I know I mentioned awhile back that I was reading Raising Our Children Raising Ourselves By Naomi Aldort.

I finally finished it the other day. I recommend it to any new parent or any parent who wants to have a respectful relationship with their child.

A partnership, not a dictatorship.

I have always parented in this perspective but I'm not perfect.

I make mistakes, I apologize, the relationship with my kids is more important than any THING I can think of.

Establishing trust, safety and respect is vital to parent child interaction.

Her quick method of S.A.L.V.E. is a great reminder to slow down and not let the old tapes in your head dictate what you say.

S. Separate yourself from your child's behavior and emotions with a silent
self-talk.

A. Attention on your child

L. Listen to what your child is saying or to what his actions are indicating.

V. Validate your child's feelings

E. Empower your child to resolve his upset by getting out of the way and
trusting him.

3 comments:

unschoolermom said...

Thanks, Stephanie! I've seen you write about this book before. Based upon your recommendation, I just ordered it from Amazon. I'm looking forward to getting!

Kandy

little castle said...

I have this on my to read list-thanks for sharing about it. I left you an award on my blog.

Krystal

WomanHonorThyself said...

thanks for the tip!