Tuesday, June 02, 2015

Entrepreneur

Our oldest son worked at Wendy's for the past 15 months, he just left this weekend. They hated to see him go, they loved him, he showed up on time and did his job. They offered him a management position, but he knew the salary just wasn't worth the hours and the stress.

He has been planning on starting his own business for quite sometime now. Learning, researching, saving his money and buying equipment and products. He has finally launched it, he has only done a few jobs so far and customers are very pleased with his work.

We are just so proud of him for finding something he loves to do and to be able to make money and be his own boss. We raised them to follow their interests and passion and to be anything they want to be.

I believe that he will be successful in this because it is what he wants and he is willing to work for it.

Here is a link to his Facebook page, he will be getting a website up soon.
https://www.facebook.com/Glossworksmd?fref=ts


Friday, August 01, 2014

No school

School started here today, our  kids friends had to go back. I am just so thankful that our kids have never had to deal with back to school angst. They were home sleeping comfortably in their beds as they should be.

Childhood is too short to spend it in a classroom for 12 years. Kids grow up so fast, time flies and I wanted to spend as much time with our kids as possible.

Our oldest is 19 now and the rest are 16,14 and 12. They are not little kids anymore. They are growing up right before my eyes.

It seems like yesterday they were all babies, I just can't imagine not spending every day with them during the years that are so important for growth and development.

Saturday, June 21, 2014

Little exchange

Cassie had her hair cut yesterday. This was a major transformation as she went from long and full to a pixie cut. While she was getting it done the hairdresser was full of questions. She was a very extroverted person and Cass who used to be a social butterfly is kind of quiet these days. Anyway, this is what I heard. I will use C for her and HD for the nice lady .

HD: How old are you?
C: 14
HD: What grade are you in?
C: I don't go to school.
HD? So you are homeschooled? Don't you still have a grade?
C: I am Unschooled.
HD: What is that?
C: We don't do school.
HD: Well what do you do?
C: Whatever we want.

I giggled under my breath and spoke up saying it's a natural approach to learning. We follow the child's interest.

HD: (Typical response) All my kids are interested in are video games.

Me still smiling... We have done this all their lives.

We briefly exchanged a bit more, but I really loved Cassie's answers :)

No coaching from me.

Although it reminded me of a time when Jared was like 6 and the dad of a kid he met in the neighborhood asked him what grade he was in and he said he doesn't go to prison...Ha ha, I loved it, but started to watch what I was saying.. Yeah right, if you know me...

I love my kids, they are so awesome.

Always Unschooled and smart as a whip!

I'll stop here, I could go on a rant, but this was just about Cass and the HD :)

Saturday, May 31, 2014

Mom thoughts

I can't believe it's been 1 1/2 years since I posted. A lot has been going on with me personally and I am trying to come back from it. I won't talk about that right now. I want to focus on being a mom and talking about our awesome kids.

Those that know me or follow this blog know how I feel about parenting. When you start out raising your kids as a partner instead of their adversary, beautiful things happen. When you give love, trust and respect, it shows and comes back to you. It may seem like it takes a long time to build the foundation, it does, as they grow through the years you will see how it comes back tenfold.

When our kids were small, I worked my ass off trying to treat them in the way they needed, not in the way I thought they needed.

As of today they are 18, 16, 14 and 11, in the next 6 weeks that will change to 19, 16, 14 and 12.

They are not small children anymore. Our oldest is a responsible adult, who has a job and his own car. Our middle son just turned 16 and is just an awesome, caring person. Our daughter is turning into such a beautiful young woman and then our baby is so creative and full of life.

I thought I was doing a pretty good job with this parenting thing with our first three. Then Jared came along and he had his own playbook. He challenged me to parent him in ways I never knew. I have written about his explosive personality and brilliant mind.

I am just at a point where I can't believe how grown up they are and how fast it all goes. I am just so happy and proud to be their mom. We will keep on loving, trusting, respecting, supporting and partnering with them as they continue to grow and mature.

They are completely unschooled as always.

If you want awesome kids, you have to treat them that way!

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

A few thoughts...

In light of last week's events a lot of people are airing their opinions on guns. What about the cause of what makes someone go on a killing spree. Clearly this person was mentally ill . I believe a lot of these shootings could be avoided. I do not have a lot of knowledge on the situation but the question I have is, Why does this keep happening? Why are people snapping and shooting in schools and malls and any public place they feel like it?

I do not believe that gun control is the issue. No matter what the laws are if someone wants to get a gun, they can get a gun, it's not that hard to obtain one illegally. All more laws will do is punish the law abiding citizens.

Then take school, why shoot up kids? Aren't they supposed to be safe at school? I think not, even though schools are prison like and some have more security than others, it is not a safe place for children. You know I have never sent my kids to school, I did not have kids to send them away. I'm not saying you did but I don't think very many people give it a second thought. Many just believe it's part of life, you go to school. Well I believe the opposite, it is an unnecessary part of so many lives. I have nothing good to say about school.

More importantly our children are only young once, every milestone they reach I want to be there, I don't want to hear about it second hand. Schools cause division in the family. I have written about this so many times I feel like a broken record.

I don't have the answers, I wish more of these troubled kids got the help they needed. There is so much turmoil in their lives, bullying, cutting, suicide...

Why?

Monday, August 20, 2012

Parents

Once again I am seeing an influx of things on Facebook that reference to the way kids are today is because their parents aren't spanking them.  I disagree and unfortunately a lot of kids still get hit. No child should ever be hit...period!

The disrespect and disregard for other people and their property is because of the way kids are being raised.

The parents who rule, bully, take things away, bribe, coerce, ground, time out etc...I don't know what ever parents do to try and make a kid do what they want....The schools do the same thing, rule and coerce... They instill fear, they do not respect the child. The child has no control over themselves but must adhere to whatever rules are being thrown at them.

If you raise your child in a respectful manner none of these measures are needed. I don't think they are necessary and they don't work anyway. They just make kids get more clever with hiding, lying and getting away with stuff.

Be your child's partner in this life not their adversary.... Maybe I sound like a broken record but damn it somebody has to stand up for these kids.

Parents!  I implore you to take a long hard look at what you are doing to your child. You are doing internal damage and if you are spanking you are doing worse.

Kids who are living with respect, learn it and give it back.

You can change, it's not too late. It may take years to undo and some things just can't be undone. I know from experience, I was that child...

Monday, August 06, 2012

Preparing for what?

Why is there so much emphasis on taking specific classes in high school and passing certain tests? I'm talking about public school and traditional homeschooler's that do the same thing as schools.What is done in high school doesn't have much bearing on college or one's future. Who cares what classes you took as a teenager? If/when you go to college you take their entrance exam and then you take their classes.

I don't see the correlation of high school preparing one for college or better yet, real life. I think time would be much better spent following one's interests and learning about what is really important to them. Time should be spent thinking and exploring. Time spent alone or with others. Time spent working and earning their own money. Time spent to really figure out what they want to do with their life.

Nothing magic happens at 18 that suddenly makes you know what you want to do. What does happen at 18 is that society deems you an adult, period.

Some know what they want to do with their life from an early age and they pursue it. Many kids don't know, they are forced to pick a major and follow a career path. I did it, I had focused goals, but guess what? People change, plans change, life happens as you live it. What I had planned on way back when I was 18, never happened, my life took a complete turn in another direction.

So have some goals, make some loose plans because nothing is written in stone.

Why spend years taking classes when you won't remember most of it anyway? I do believe it's all just busywork to keep kids occupied until they are adults and the school system doesn't have to worry about them anymore.

They need to be doing real things in real life, not busywork in an artificial environment that will never be replicated in life.