Monday, August 20, 2012

Parents

Once again I am seeing an influx of things on Facebook that reference to the way kids are today is because their parents aren't spanking them.  I disagree and unfortunately a lot of kids still get hit. No child should ever be hit...period!

The disrespect and disregard for other people and their property is because of the way kids are being raised.

The parents who rule, bully, take things away, bribe, coerce, ground, time out etc...I don't know what ever parents do to try and make a kid do what they want....The schools do the same thing, rule and coerce... They instill fear, they do not respect the child. The child has no control over themselves but must adhere to whatever rules are being thrown at them.

If you raise your child in a respectful manner none of these measures are needed. I don't think they are necessary and they don't work anyway. They just make kids get more clever with hiding, lying and getting away with stuff.

Be your child's partner in this life not their adversary.... Maybe I sound like a broken record but damn it somebody has to stand up for these kids.

Parents!  I implore you to take a long hard look at what you are doing to your child. You are doing internal damage and if you are spanking you are doing worse.

Kids who are living with respect, learn it and give it back.

You can change, it's not too late. It may take years to undo and some things just can't be undone. I know from experience, I was that child...

6 comments:

GregJrsMom said...

Amen Girl! You don't demand respect, you model it.

Unschooling Blog Carnival said...

Hi Stephanie! Your post has been sent to me as an Unschooling Favorite to be included in the Unschooling Blog Carnival this month! This carnival should be up by the end of the week...but if you haven't seen it, here's the link: http://unschoolingblogcarnival.blogspot.com

Happy Unschooling!
~Sue

Stephanie said...

Wow, someone nominated this post? It was just a little rant not one of my best. I guess that is pretty cool. I didn't know you were still doing the blog carnival.

Unschooling Blog Carnival said...

Sometimes those rants can be really crystal clear.
And, yep, the Unschooling Blog Carnival is still happening. A little erratic - but would anyone expect anything else? ha!!

This is going to be our new way of doing the Carnival: Unschoolers recommending other Unschooling Blogposts. You can recommend your best post for the month, or someone else's that inspired you. I think it will be cool!

~Sue

Lifelong Learning
http://www.LL-Unschooling.blogspot.com

Heather Booth said...

I found your blog through the Unschooling Blog Carnival and fist pump to you for putting this out there. The more mama's there are speaking out about parent's bullying their kids the better.

Stephanie said...

Thank you Heather!