Great Book!

I know I mentioned awhile back that I was reading Raising Our Children Raising Ourselves By Naomi Aldort.

I finally finished it the other day. I recommend it to any new parent or any parent who wants to have a respectful relationship with their child.

A partnership, not a dictatorship.

I have always parented in this perspective but I'm not perfect.

I make mistakes, I apologize, the relationship with my kids is more important than any THING I can think of.

Establishing trust, safety and respect is vital to parent child interaction.

Her quick method of S.A.L.V.E. is a great reminder to slow down and not let the old tapes in your head dictate what you say.

S. Separate yourself from your child's behavior and emotions with a silent
self-talk.

A. Attention on your child

L. Listen to what your child is saying or to what his actions are indicating.

V. Validate your child's feelings

E. Empower your child to resolve his upset by getting out of the way and
trusting him.

finished

I finished reading The Shack last night and all I can say is WOW.

It's an awesome look at relationships and it is worth reading.

I'm still in awe, I don't want to give any details away but if you are looking outside of the institutional church box then this book is for you.

The Unprocessed Child

I have finished The Unprocessed Child www.ubpub.com and just thought I would tell you what I thought of it.

Overall it was a good book, easy to read, straightforward and to the point. I have said many of the things she writes so I really agreed with her take on most things.I realize that Valerie F. was pretty much giving an overview of their lives and in that respect she did a nice job.

It is a good read to give to someone who would like to unschool and parent respectfully.

I do believe it was pretty simplistic in many areas and I would have liked her to go more in depth but I suppose then the book would be 4oo pages long.

She had one child and the dynamics of a one child household is much different than a 4 child household.

My kids have the freedoms that Laurie had but when we have to take turns and be flexible and mediate and respect everyones needs it takes on a whole new dynamic.