Monday, December 06, 2010

Spanking IS abuse!

So there has been child abuse awareness going on around facebook lately.

My friend posted a quote that I have seen and posted before and it sparked some comments :

‎"When a child hits a child, we call it aggression. When a child hits an adult, we call it hostility. When an adult hits an adult, we call it assault. When an adult hits a child, we call it discipline." ~Haim G. Ginott

In reality when an adult hits a child it is assault, it is abuse!
People justify hitting children in many ways but it is completely UNACCEPTABLE!
Do you realize the damage you are doing to that child?
Do not tell me it is fine to swat a toddler in a diaper. There is no justifiable reason to spank a toddler.
I love this one:
If a child hits another child, the parent teaches them that hitting is wrong by spanking them!
I would love to slap these parents and see how they like it!
Hitting, spanking, whipping, whopping, swatting, call it what you want, it IS abuse!
So yes I am calling all of those loving parents who spank their kids abusers.
Deal with it!
Step up, get help, seek alternatives.
Kids do not deserve to be hit by people who claim to love them.
Get real, be real, be honest, control yourself, stop the cycle!

Do not tell me you spank aka discipline your child out of love, you are delusional!

If you were spanked, you are damaged, it is not right, it is not good, it is not healthy.
Think about it, really reflect on your experience being humiliated and beaten...Do you want to do that to your children? Do you want them to beat your grandchildren?

Yes I use the word beat interchangeably, think about it!

God is not telling you to beat your kids, trust me!
Do not hit your kids, STOP hitting your kids!
Please, their mental, physical and emotional development depends on it.
Check out these links:
No spank
Non violent communication 
Parenting in Jesus footsteps
The natural child project

Just please do NOT hit your kids anymore!


Heather said...


Thanks for those links. Reminds me to pass them around. :)

Cap'n Franko said...

I'm with ya!

tangel476 said...

You should check out Rense's cartoon of the week. It shows the creativity of children transforming into mindless drones.

Anonymous said...

I am 14 and get spanked regularly by belt or even by cane on bare bottom. It is really not abuse just a strict form of discipline.

Stephanie said...

I've been struggling if I should comment or not.
I'm concerned about you. It is not normal, it is wrong, it is abuse and at your age, it's even worse.
If you want to break the cycle I will try to help.

Unknown said...

Lili, it *is* abuse. If your "boyfriend" did that to you, he would be arrested for abuse. It's even worse when a parent is doing that to a 14yo. Bare bottom at 14?? That is sexual abuse and it's wrong at any age.

And if you're still getting "spanked" at 14, then how is this form of "strict discipline" even effective? If it were effective, then the spanking would have stopped a long time ago.

Praying you see the light.

labatterie said...

It shows the creativity of children transforming into mindless drones.

Nicole McGraw Dorr said...

I'm so glad I found your blog! Some times I feel like my husband and I are the only ones who feel so adamantly opposed to violence against children. It's refreshing to see some thoughts by a like-minded person!